Two weeks, too little
The Yahoo effect: Is maternity leave vanishing for working women? Top female execs weigh in
Marissa Mayer was five months pregnant when she accepted the executive position as Yahoo’s new CEO (YHOO). Now, with the news that she gave birth to a baby boy on Sunday night, many are wondering if she will be true to her word and only take one or two weeks of maternity leave, working from home throughout. This announcement has caused quite a stir in executive circles and the parenting world.
With Mayer’s decision, have we gone back in time? I can’t help but have visions of women from generations past squatting in the field to deliver a baby and then returning right back to their daily chores with the swaddled baby attached to their hips.
Immediate reactions to Mayer’s plan to “work throughout it” varied from dismay to absolute disgust; some even thought it was a joke.
Women have been socialized for generations to “do it all,” but in this day and age, why do we still place such unrealistic expectations on women immediately after giving birth? Parenting, and parent-child bonding, especially in the period following birth, are important to the infant’s socialization and to society — worthy goals to be encouraged and supported by the business world.
Whether it is a boardroom executive who has the choice of juggling career with motherhood or a single mom working two jobs, each woman needs to do what is best for her, her baby and her family. So while the pundits and commentators are waiting on Mayer to decide what is best for her, I visited with current female executives and those from prior eras to gain their perspective.
Immediate reactions to Mayer’s plan to “work throughout it” varied from dismay to absolute disgust; some even thought it was a joke. All cautioned that one should never commit to an exact return date before the baby’s arrival.
“For one thing, as a new mother, you want to leave yourself some flexibility should you or the baby have health issues,” one executive said. Aside from the obvious physical recovery, equally important is the emotional adjustment to having your world change instantaneously.
A senior vice president of a Fortune 50 pharmaceutical corporation commented, “It’s really difficult to have it all.” Most corporate women she knows have either live-in nannies or their husbands stay home.
“It has become very difficult to raise a family with both parents working in two fast-paced, high-stress positions that require significant time away from home. It creates too much pressure,” she said.
For women climbing the corporate ladder, this is often the compromise they make. She also added that almost all assumed and accepted that they would have to make family sacrifices in order to build their careers; sacrifices that men were far less likely to have to make. For many of these women, the fear of being perceived as choosing family over career eliminates any viable work-life balance.
Mayer may be a brilliant leader who Yahoo is banking on to turn around the company, but she is not the ideal role model for working women.
Our societal norms cannot change unless top women speak out — and Mayer is not helping on this front at all. Why should we embrace leaders who fall short on personal responsibilities?
Mayer may be a brilliant leader whom Yahoo is banking on to turn around the company, but she is not the ideal role model for working women. Only a small percentage of mothers can afford to hire round-the-clock help so they can work throughout leave, and even if this were in the best interests of infant and parent, I’ll bet most mothers would prefer to be the initial primary caregiver for their babies, because maternal bonding is both instinctual and important.
In addition, those interviewed noted that if a mother chooses to be more involved, getting up in the middle of the night, she will be sleep-deprived and challenged at the office.
All of the career women I interviewed cherished the time they could spend with their babies —12 weeks to four months was the norm, and all commented that 12 weeks was not enough. To quote one mom, “Raising a child is a life-long journey.”
“It seems kind of foolish to have committed to such an aggressive return date, but since she did, she should honor it. As a senior leader, your word has to be golden, and, as a woman, integrity is even more critical.”
An executive with a global investment bank commented, “Ms. Mayer’s stance is tone deaf to the next generation of mothers that require and expect flexibility, respect, and have, in many cases, been raised by working or working single mothers.
“No woman believes that she is a better leader or mother because she plans on returning to work immediately. This is not something you schedule, like getting your tonsils out. Let’s not make the same mistakes of the past. Let’s show that it is okay to be wonderful and brilliant both at work and, unapologetically, at home.”
Finally, an EVP of a global technology corporation commented, “It seems kind of foolish to have committed to such an aggressive return date, but since she did, she should honor it. As a senior leader, your word has to be golden, and, as a woman, integrity is even more critical. In my view, she risks both her integrity and credibility if she doesn’t honor it. ... However, she may stumble.”
While my survey was purely informal, and most women executives had reservations about the box into which Mayer has painted herself, one executive said, “While a two-week maternity leave may be the public line, it is very possible that she privately negotiated a different time frame.”
Because of Yahoo’s highly publicized challenges, it needed a CEO who was not going to leave the helm empty for several months. Public perception can be quite different from private reality. I guess interested women executives, shareholders and pundits will all have to wait to see what Mayer “delivers.”
Beth Ehrgott, a working mother of two, is a director at The Alexander Group.